Gwen Snyder on Bluesky: “I know this is last week’s prompt but my personal Rushmore tweet was that guy who said we should solve loneliness and climate change by abolishing washing machines and having women go back to laundering clothes by hand down at the village riverbank.”
Riiight. Given that we’re dealing with a male loneliness epidemic in particular, wouldn’t it make more sense to have men doing the laundry? And how many people live near a convenient riverbank? It’s fairly typical of the nostalgia for community that assumes getting back to the Good Old Days includes getting back to the days when men ran everything. Do the women get a say in how they spend their days? Of course not.
I think community at its best is a wonderful thing. As Kristen Kobes du Mez says, however, close-knit communities often have dark sides. And built into the longing for them comes the implicit assumption — often not stated specifically — that part of what makes them work is putting authority, power and decision-making in the hands of men. Women will fill the “traditional” role of making the system run by providing unpaid labor—housekeepers, organizers of school events, emotional support, whatever is needed.
Since second-wave feminism exploded into people’s awareness in the 1970s, anti-feminists have been pushing back. Phyliss Schlafly glorifying how nobody has ever had it so good as the American stay-at-home housewife and mother (Schlafly, of course, built a career on telling other women not to have careers). More recently holding up tradwives as what women should aspire too, though now many tradwives are coming out and saying it’s a dead-end street.
It’s true that trying to cope with a life outside the home and all the responsibilities wives are often stuck with exhausts women. That doesn’t mean the solution is to stay home, let the husband be the boss and escape all the struggles of working in a capitalist world. Paul Deneen (at the du Mez link) and J.D. Vance talk about protecting the women from the brutal capitalist competition as if they were going to be pampered house pets. But if capitalism is that awful, why should men suffer? Why not reform the system?
Because they don’t want to. They don’t care whether patriarchy works by any normal standard of the word “works.” For right-wing purposes, it “works” if it reaffirms their penis entitles them to a higher status. If it’s dysfunctional, so what? They’re still ruling it.
(Still working on Watching Jekyll and Hyde so no time for a deeper, longer post).























